Best First Date Ideas

You’re going on a first date! What a chaotic blend of exhilarating excitement about the potential for a connection mixed with the nerve-wracking pressure [of a potential connection]! 

While you might not be able to assuage the swirl of ideas about how to make a great impression while trying to gauge chemistry, choosing the right activity can go a long way to help set the tone for a relaxed and enjoyable experience.

Whether you’re looking for something casual, romantic, or entirely unique, here are some of the best first date ideas to get you on your way. 

Classic First Date Ideas

If you’re a romantic at heart there’s no need to reinvent the wheel. Here are a few ideas that offer opportunities for conversation (and more?).

Coffee Date

A coffee shop meeting is low-pressure and perfect for anyone who wants to keep it casual. A coffee house is ideal for easy, breezy conversation, and if things go well, invites the opportunity to extend the date with a stroll or another activity.  

Dinner

It’s tried and true and a first-date staple, but dinner on a first date is a standby for good reason—it gives you and your date ample time to chat and learn about each other. Try a relaxed restaurant in the mid-range for price to avoid feeling overly formal or stuffy.  

Go for a Stroll

Take advantage of where you live. Head to a local lake or boardwalk. A walk along the water can be serene  and a walk through a charming downtown area can be a romantic option. Simple yet scenic, and the changing views invite plenty of conversation starters.  

Outside the Box First Date Ideas  

You might want the chance to add a little sparkle to your first date—maybe to plan something that reflects your unique personality with these best first date ideas. 

Art Class 

Showcase your creativity. Take part in a local painting class or pottery workshop. Making something together can be fun and might even create a quick bond as you problem solve and navigate a new creative endeavour together.

Trivia Night

Talk about team building! If you’re a smartie pants, show off your knowledge (or laugh at your lack of it) at a fun trivia night. Anything interactive and energetic is great for sharing a laugh and fostering a sense of camaraderie.

Bookstore or Library

Check the latest recommendations on BookTok and then head out to explore a bookstore or visit your local library for the most charming first date. Discuss your favourite genres or recommend must-reads for a sweet and natural conversation starter.  

Outdoor First Date Ideas

If the weather is nice then take your date outside to enjoy some fresh air and beautiful surroundings. 

Take a Hike

Hiking offers a peaceful way to connect in the great outdoors. Start with an easy or moderate trail (bonus points for scenic views so the focus stays on getting to know each other without getting too out of breath). Be sure to pack water and snacks for you both. 

Picnic in the Park

Don’t underestimate the power of a simple picnic with finger foods, a blanket, and some beverages. It’s affordable and romantic!

Outdoor Concert

Live music or comedy (or both!) can be a fun way to enjoy a lively atmosphere with built-in entertainment. Plus, you’ll discover if you vibe with your date’s musical tastes.  

Unique First Date Ideas

Go big. Be memorable. Plan a date you’ll never forget.  

Museums

Wait until your local museum is hosting a particularly unique exhibition. Think: a Dali retrospective or a Chihuly installation. Wandering through these captivating creations gives you plenty to discuss, whether it’s history, art, or even a shared sense of humor over the obscure.  

Cooking Class  

Food is always a good start but kicking up the experience to learn a new recipe together  is interactive, rewarding, and perfect for foodies.  

Arcade Night

Tap into your sense of play and nostalgic fun with an arcade date. Play some pinball and laugh over who’s the reigning champion.  

Places to Avoid for a First Date

Here are a few options that make for decent dates as you get to know someone but are better avoided as a first date option. 

The Movies  

Sure, heading to the movies is a classic date idea, but spending time in a dark quiet theatre is not ideal for making conversation. It’s better to leave this one for later in the dating game.

A Gym Workout

Even if you’re both active and interested in physical fitness, the gym lacks romance (shockingly, being surrounded by sweaty strangers does not invite the sense of intimacy you may expect).

Family Gatherings 

This one can be way too intimate at the beginning of relationships. Introducing a first date to your family is just too much, too soon. Instead, opt to keep it casual in the early stages.  

First Date Etiquette

No matter where you choose to go or what you choose to do on your first date, keep these tips in mind to help ensure things go smoothly:  

Do

• Be on time. Remember that punctuality shows respect and thoughtfulness.  
• Be present in the moment. Keep your phone on silent and in your pocket and instead focus on the person you’re with. 
• Be kind. Respectfulness to everyone you encounter (waiters, drivers, etc.) speaks so much about your character. 
• Be independent. Do not expect your date to foot the bill. Sure, it’s nice if they offer but remember that suggesting a split can also be appreciated. 

Do Not

• Keep it flowing and avoid excessive questioning. Remember that this is a date and not an interrogation. The conversation should flow naturally. 
• Skip the gossip and do not mention your ex or ask them about their past relationships. Keep the vibe positive and future-facing. 
• Share the space and do not dominate the conversation. You should try to strike a balance between listening and speaking. 

Just keep in mind that the best first dates are always the ones where both individuals feel comfortable, engaged, and able to embrace the excitement of getting to know each other. The key is to pick something that allows for connection and conversation. 

The activity isn’t as important as how you both vibe with each other. So, relax and have fun. You only have your first date with someone once.